As a result of this realization, I decided to create a new kind of challenge that I call the 99 Problems Challenge. The goal of this challenge is to help me to become a more generous spirited person (in the midst of my own mess) by identifying another person's need in the context of a relationship, and to try to address the need rather than sweeping it under the table.
Most likely addressing the need will cost a small amount of money and a small to medium amount of time. The only rules of the challenge are that the relationship comes first (ie I won't do something challenge related if it means sacrificing the quality of the relationship), and I have to identify the need outside of my immediate family. And the rules can change because this is my blog, and I only have 3-4 readers.
I got 99 Problems, but Mental Health Ain't one
Honestly, I'm not a very good person, so being a good friend to depressed people is hard for me. I expect that I won't come back from my times with these friends feeling energized, but I also know that I'm really thankful for the friends who stuck with me through my own post-partum depression and offered a listening ear even when I wasn't talking.
I'll report back on the 99 Problems next month, and if you want to join, please leave a little note in the comment section!